March 13, 2013
mscrosswords:

purrversatility:

amydentata:

impalable:

dailymurf:

YES

The learn how to deal with rejection one is my favorite. Seriously, props to whoever wrote that one. It’s a nice way to say that the friendzone is a bullshit term.

This is wonderful.

I love these! These are great!

I want to hang these up at play parties.

Tip #1Learn how to manage your sex drive. The person you’re interesting in doesn’t owe you a response.Tip #2Make consent part of your approach. Ask. Offer. Don’t assume or guess. Respect the answer.Tip #3Learn how to deal with rejection. Rejection hurts, but your feelings are your responsibility.Tip #4Deal with the fact that many women are bombarded with sexual interest, invitations, harassment, groping, and worse on an almost constant basis.Tip #5Deal with the possibility that she’ll receive your interest differently than you intend. Disengage.Tip #6If you slip up (and everyone does) learn how to make amends. Acknowledge it, offer an apology, and step back.

mscrosswords:

purrversatility:

amydentata:

impalable:

dailymurf:

YES

The learn how to deal with rejection one is my favorite. Seriously, props to whoever wrote that one. It’s a nice way to say that the friendzone is a bullshit term.

This is wonderful.

I love these! These are great!

I want to hang these up at play parties.

Tip #1
Learn how to manage your sex drive. The person you’re interesting in doesn’t owe you a response.

Tip #2
Make consent part of your approach. Ask. Offer. Don’t assume or guess. Respect the answer.

Tip #3
Learn how to deal with rejection. Rejection hurts, but your feelings are your responsibility.

Tip #4
Deal with the fact that many women are bombarded with sexual interest, invitations, harassment, groping, and worse on an almost constant basis.

Tip #5
Deal with the possibility that she’ll receive your interest differently than you intend. Disengage.

Tip #6
If you slip up (and everyone does) learn how to make amends. Acknowledge it, offer an apology, and step back.

(Source: yoke, via jadedthings)

March 4, 2013
your friendly neighborhood storytelling viking: How to be a friend to someone with PTSD

writeswrongs:

youarenotyou:

* for those without PTSD

** NOTE! May be triggering

  1. Don’t ask why they have PTSD!! It’s invasive and inappropriate, no matter what your relationship is to that person, and it’s likely that even thinking about the trauma at all (let alone describing it aloud) can be catastrophic.  
  2. If they want to tell you why they have PTSD, listen. Don’t judge them or act like they need to justify why something was traumatic. Don’t ask questions unless they say you can. Realize that their trauma is immensely hard to talk about and that it’s highly confidential (ie. don’t tell other people.)
  3. Don’t ask them if they were professionally diagnosed. For so many reasons, this is not “proof” that they “really” have PTSD. Psychiatry is not accessible to everyone, nor is it equal in its treatment of everyone; for example PTSD resulting from oppression is not formally acknowledged, and Black women are dx’ed with PTSD at lower rates which does not mean they suffer from PTSD at lower rates.
  4. Don’t make their illness about you. Realize that you crying in response to their experiences could be offensive to them and if you can’t control it, apologize and be clear that you don’t need to be comforted.
  5. Don’t try to relate by telling them about something bad that happened to you once. It is insulting.
  6. If they ask to pause the conversation for a minute, an hour, a day, please respect that. Trigger responses can make it excruciatingly difficult to articulate thoughts and feelings. And since silencing is so often a part of trauma for people with PTSD, not affording them space can further compound, invalidate, and shame. (from tiburongata)
  7. Don’t assume that PTSD is from one isolated incident. PTSD can also be from long-term abuse, multiple traumas, etc.
  8. Abuse doesn’t necessarily look like abuse to outsiders. It’s not necessarily physical. It’s not always obvious. It’s often very complicated. Do NOT act like an abuse victim needs to justify/explain their abuse to you. (from kvteghost)
  9. Do not blame or question them if they stay with their abusers or otherwise have a relationship with a person who traumatized them.
  10. Do not encourage them to forgive a person who traumatized them.
  11. Realize that not everyone reacts the same way to trauma. Some people do not develop PTSD and some people do. This has nothing to do with “strength”.
  12. Know that not every survivor has the same experience. For example, my PTSD at its worst consisted of hallucinations, delusional paranoia, nightmares, an eating disorder, loss of identity, chronic fatigue and physical pain, among other things, many of which I didn’t realize were from the PTSD… in part because of stereotypical ideas about what PTSD is.
  13. Do not judge them for taking, or not taking, medication.
  14. Don’t assume you know anything about what PTSD is like. Remember that they are the only expert on their own life. Being close with a survivor of trauma or reading books in no way makes it okay to act like you know more than they do.
  15. That being said, it’s appreciated if you do some research on your own if you want to try to understand what they are going through. It shows that you care.
  16. Don’t assume you know what being triggered looks or feels like, because it can vary greatly from person to person. A person may be triggered and you wouldn’t necessarily even realize it. It does not always result in a panic attack. It can lead to obsessive and invasive thoughts, self harm, and a lot of other things.
  17. Don’t ever call their triggers irrational. It’s not something they can control.
  18. Ask for permission before you share their triggers with anyone else; you may think it’s in their best interest, but triggers are sensitive information that can be misused to seriously hurt the person.
  19. Do NOT expose them to their triggers intentionally in the vein of “exposure therapy.” It’s incredibly dangerous and, in general, makes you a shitty person. This form of therapy is supposed to be done by a professional and isn’t appropriate for everyone. You are NOT their therapist.
  20. Do not take advantage of them if they’re easily startled (by scaring them). It’s not funny. In my experience, people do this a lot and I have laughed it off more than you can imagine but it doesn’t mean I condone it.
  21. Realize that a survivor likely feels unsafe all the time, or a lot of the time. You don’t need to empathize with this in order to respect it and how it manifests in their behavior.
  22. PTSD can change a person’s personality, and/or cause a disruption, instability, or total loss of one’s identity. PTSD can last for over a decade and can affect a person’s life for a very long time. Don’t expect them to be “cured” and to ever become the person they were prior to PTSD, if applicable.
  23. Realize that PTSD is an illness that can cause structural and chemical changes to the brain. They may act in ways that confuse you.
  24. However: don’t pathologize everything that they do. PTSD is stigmatized enough as it is.
  25. Don’t treat them like a research project.
  26. Don’t use them as inspiration porn; it’s objectifying and dehumanizing. Be wary of making comments like, “I admire how strong/brave you are” or “I don’t know how you do it.” Remember that they don’t exist to inspire you. (from kvteghost)
  27. Be careful how you treat them, but don’t infantilize them. Similarly, don’t expect them to simply take any “minor” bullshit because they’re “tough.” Appearing tough can be a defense mechanism. They are still a human being, and they can still be hurt.
  28. Don’t give unsolicited advice to a survivor on how to cope. Talking to you about their experiences doesn’t mean they want to be judged, and it doesn’t mean they’re asking for solutions. Recovery looks different for everybody and sometimes it includes behaviors that appear to be unhealthy. But you are not their psychiatrist; remember this.
  29. Ask them what, if anything, they need from you.
  30. If they say they don’t need anything, don’t assume they are lying. They may not want or need your help. They may want to be treated exactly the same as always. Respect that.
  31. When they’re distressed, don’t disappear; most people do. Be a friend. (See above) Being alone can be very very difficult and painful for some survivors, so don’t abandon them.
  32. PTSD can cause severe trust issues so it’s extremely important to respect their wishes, no matter how trivial you think they are. Similarly, do not make promises you can’t keep. Rebuilding trust is an important part of recovery.
  33. Related: Don’t be insulted if they want to be alone, or if they act suspicious of your intentions, or if they seem to not trust you. It’s not necessarily personal.
  34. If you do fuck up, apologize, make sure you don’t do it again, and then shut up about it. Don’t dwell on it. Don’t demand a detailed explanation of how you wronged them. Don’t act like you’re the one who ultimately needs consolation.
  35. Don’t assume that they know you love/like/appreciate/care about them. They may need this explicitly affirmed on a regular basis. PTSD can lead to major abandonment fears. Don’t call them “needy.”
  36. Finally: Realize that every person with PTSD is a unique individual with their own needs. They are not JUST their illness. This list is mostly based on my own experiences; it might not be accurate for everyone. If you are becoming close to someone with PTSD or want to be a better friend to them, it’s best to talk to them directly about it, albeit carefully. 

stuff to remember for myself

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February 6, 2013
"I’m sorry you were not truly loved and that it made you cruel."

— Warsan Shire (via zaweeya)

(Source: twitter.com, via vaganja)

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September 16, 2012
lucifelle:


“You can’t make me free if you remove my rights”

lucifelle:

“You can’t make me free if you remove my rights”

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September 14, 2011
sequin-stuffed:drvy:



“Me love you long time” came into prominence with Stanley Kubrick’s “Full Metal Jacket,” (from 1987) as a Vietnamese prostitute tries to pick up Matthew Modine’s character with broken English. The phrase was then popularly picked up by 2 Live Crew in the song “Me So Horny.” “It’s so many different kinds of slurs in one,” comedian Margaret Cho  said. “It’s instantly putting you in the position of being a foreigner,  an outsider and a sexual stereotype. It’s an all-in-one combo.”
~naturallaw for yahoo questions

The popularization by Mariah Carey’s ‘Love You Long Time,’ Fergie’s ‘London Bridge,’ and Nicki Minaj’s ““Muahhhh me love you long time like I’m asian” demonstrates how this exotification of Asian/A.American women is constantly recycled in the media, perpetuated by celebrities to obtain the hyper-sexualized image needed to make it big, especially if you ain’t got the talent.
I would get started on Nicki’s whole hyper-sexualized, Japanese dolled up shit, but racialious says it best. Well researched: here http://www.racialicious.com/2010/11/01/the-orientalism-of-nicki-minaj/
You can degrade yourself, but no, my sisters and I will NOT love you long time. 

Yes for the commentary.

sequin-stuffed:drvy:

Me love you long time” came into prominence with Stanley Kubrick’s “Full Metal Jacket,” (from 1987) as a Vietnamese prostitute tries to pick up Matthew Modine’s character with broken English. The phrase was then popularly picked up by 2 Live Crew in the song “Me So Horny.”

“It’s so many different kinds of slurs in one,” comedian Margaret Cho said. “It’s instantly putting you in the position of being a foreigner, an outsider and a sexual stereotype. It’s an all-in-one combo.”

~naturallaw for yahoo questions

The popularization by Mariah Carey’s ‘Love You Long Time,’ Fergie’s ‘London Bridge,’ and Nicki Minaj’s ““Muahhhh me love you long time like I’m asian” demonstrates how this exotification of Asian/A.American women is constantly recycled in the media, perpetuated by celebrities to obtain the hyper-sexualized image needed to make it big, especially if you ain’t got the talent.

I would get started on Nicki’s whole hyper-sexualized, Japanese dolled up shit, but racialious says it best. Well researched: here http://www.racialicious.com/2010/11/01/the-orientalism-of-nicki-minaj/

You can degrade yourself, but no, my sisters and I will NOT love you long time.

Yes for the commentary.

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August 25, 2011
"Love (amor) and death (morte) are connected in language because they are connected in nature. The male bee dies after fertilizing the queen. The female preying mantis bites off the head of the male as he copulates, and death throes join copulatory spasms to make the trusts stronger. Once inseminated, the female eats the male. The myths too relate the act of sexual love to dying; giving up the self, surrender in spirit as well as body, is necessary for the spontaneity of orgasm. Orgasm is a symbol of death and resurrection, as baptism is, a daring leap into nonbeing in the hope of new being."

Peter Kreeft (Love is Stronger Than Death)

(Source: sex-death-rebirth, via sex-death-rebirth)

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August 2, 2011
PUSSIES & ANKHS: "I don't respect you because you don't respect yourself."

pixiemoon42:

feministslut:

inlovewithalovegood:

I’ve heard this line used time and time again when people talk about women who are sexual, and it’s an utter load of shit.

You know the women they’re talking about. Women who actually enjoy having sex (what a shocking idea!), and…

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May 24, 2011
"Real women have curves” was a marketing slogan thought up to sell people overpriced, ill-fitting pants. It does NOT promote body positivity – it only perpetuates body policing by turning the tables on people who don’t fit into yet another arbitrary ideal. The job is to BUST THE FUCKING PARADIGM APART, not shift it a little bit toward the fat side. The job is to remind people, bodies are not public property and your opinion about an individual’s body is only an opinion, not a valid judgment of their worth as a human being. The JOB is to destroy systemic oppression of nonconforming, rebellious bodies no matter what those bodies look like."

— Job Number One; Destroying the Paradigm, Not Shifting It. (via wallofbooks, feministslut)

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May 1, 2011
"For women, getting angry is socially unacceptable, even when the anger is over violence, discrimination, misogyny, and other forms of oppression. Anger is unacceptable because angry women are women in touch with their passion and power, especially in relation to men, which threatens the entire patriarchal order. It’s unacceptable because it forces men to confront the reality of male privilege and women’s oppression and their involvement in it, even if only as passive beneficiaries. Women’s anger challenges men to acknowledge attempts to trivialize oppression with “I was only kidding.” And women’s anger is unacceptable to men who look to women to take care of them, to prop up their need to feel in control, and to support them in their competition with other men. When women are less than gracious and good-humored about their own oppression, men often feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, at a loss, and therefore vulnerable."

Allan G. Johnson (via remnantsoflove)

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No kidding.

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February 13, 2011

anarchyisbeautiful:

Song: Utah Phillips and Ani Difranco - Shoot or Stab Them

Listening is crucial to understanding this post.

lucy parsons

A woman of color living in the south at the end of the nineteenth century, Lucy Parsons saw her closest friends and relatives lynched by white mobs because of their race. She moved north at the end of the Civil War to become a prominent anarchist organizer where she saw her husband and closest comrades framed and lynched by the state because of their political beliefs.

She dedicated her life to the pursuit of anarchism. Her anger at the injustice she had seen and endured lasted until her death and her spirit of revolt, even as she grew very old, is inspiring to this day. Her militancy and revolutionary fervor caused the Chicago department of police to describe her as “more dangerous than a thousand rioters.” Parsons’ famous pamphlet, To Tramps, the Unemployed, the Disinherited, and Miserable, distributed among tens of thousands of workers and unemployed, reads:

Can you not see that the “good boss” or the “bad boss” cuts no figure whatever? that you are the prey of both, and that their mission is simply robbery? Can you not see that it is the INDUSTRIAL SYSTEM and not the “boss” which must be changed?

The pamphlet ends with an isolated line: “Learn the use of explosives!”

utah phillips

Utah Phillips, like Parsons, discovered anarchism under harsh circumstances. Unlike Parsons, he was a pacifist. His introduction to anarchism came after his harrowing experience fighting in the Korean War. He deserted the army mid-fighting and returned home. Like so many veterans, he spiraled into a funk of wandering and drinking.

While stopping in Utah for a free meal, Phillips came across the Joe Hill House of Hospitality where he met Ammon Hennacy, a 69 year old Christian anarchist who had organized with Dorothy Day in the 30s. Hennacy ran the Joe Hill House and he and Phillips became close friends. It was he who advised Phillips to become a pacifist and an anarchist. He told him:

You were born a white man in mid-twentieth century industrial America. You cam into the world armed to the teeth with an arsenal of weapons. The weapons of privilege, racial privilege, sexual privilege, economic privilege. You wanna be a pacifist, it’s not just giving up guns and knives and clubs and fists and angry words, but giving up the weapons of privilege and going into the world completely disarmed. Try that - Ammon Hennacy

With this, Utah began to conceive his own radical outlook. His “slow” approach to overthrowing capitalism and the state and replacing it with anarchism is deeply rooted in the theory of “creating a new world within the shell of the old,” and seems very non-confrontational in contrast to Lucy Parsons’ radical militancy against the system:

The big system can be pretty overwhelming. We know that we can’t beat them by competing with them. What we can do is build small systems where we live and work that serve our needs as we define us and not as they ‘re defined for us. The big boys in their shining armor are up there on castle walls hurling their thunderbolts. We’re the ants patiently carrying sand a grain at a time from under the castle wall. We work from the bottom up. The knights up there don’t see the ants and don’t know what we’re doing. They’ll figure it out only when the wall begins to fall. It takes time and quiet persistence. Always remember this: They fight with money and we resist with time, and they’re going to run out of money before we run out of time - Utah Phillips

Parsons saw action as imminent. Her experience drove her to call workers to arms. To commit acts of violence in hopes of triggering a spontaneous uprising of the lower classes. Utah’s experience brought him the same revolutionary dream of a society without state and capital, but with less of a sense of urgency, and a dedication to nonviolence. 

Utah Phillips, a white male of considerable social privilege, chose pacifism because he was horrified by his own tendency towards violence and the culture that promoted it. Parsons, a woman of color from the south, became a militant as a form of self-defense against a society that devalued and made expendable every element of her person.

Utah’s ode to Parsons, even to one of her most violent speeches, shows his awareness of the role that privilege plays in the development of ones beliefs and actions and reaffirms the anti-dogmatic nature of anarchism and the tolerance of its adherents towards different forms of revolutionary change.

Anarchism is the only social theory whose very basis is in the fluidity of its basis. Anarchism calls for total autonomy of the individual because there is no “system” that can account for the sporadic and constant nature of human change. A social program that is written and informed by one social background can hardly be applied to those with different lived experience. 

However, those institutions which can never bring freedom and equality, such as capitalism, government, patriarchy, racism etc, those institutions which are built on caste, hierarchy and power and thus are inherently opposed to freedom of self and community autonomy, must be universally opposed by anarchists of all stripes. 

A vacant lot is a field of possibility, but one must first remove the trash and weeds that suffocate its soil. From this point only a gentle encouragement is needed towards a beautiful and spontaneous growth. The means in which the lot is cleared will be strongly debated, but it is the possibility of growth that drives us unanimously forward.

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January 7, 2011
Natural Beauty Is An Oppressive Fucking Value

thepeacockangel:

I hate the obsession with “natural beauty” yes, people can be absolutely fucking stunning without makeup, or hair products or whatever but I find the valuing of “natural beauty” over artificial beauty honestly creeps me the fuck out.  For one thing, everyone, and I do mean everyone, has to groom to some extent, not to mention that let’s be fucking honest here some of us are not born beautiful, and that’s just fine.  Being an “Unnatural beauty” is just fine as well, being ugly is just fine too.  Songs like Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me” highlight the ugliness of this value.  The idea that if a woman wears makeup, or clothes that enhance her body that she is somehow immoral or vain, and that her appearance ”tricks” men, or that valuing “natural” beauty is somehow more feminist than allowing women (and men) the agency to decide their own appearance, to paint their face how they choose to.

Natural beauty is a more oppressive value than simply valuing beauty, because beauty of one form or another is A: attainable by nearly everyone, and B: is often an expression of the person who’s created it for themselves, the way someone does their makeup, the clothes they choose are often a way of speaking about their personality underneath their appearance, “natural” beauty on the other hand is merely the genetically determined appearance of a person.

I think it’s incredibly misogynistic when men think that makeup, hair, etc is all about them, and think of it as a deception intended to trick them into mating with a women who’s not “really” beautiful, or perhaps they prefer it when women are generically attractive without any personality reflected in their sexiness, so that they can project whatever personality they want onto her.  I hate it when men tell me I look better without makeup, because to me it feels like they’re saying “You look better when you don’t talk” 

Hugh Heffner talks about how simple and natural his ideal bunny is, and of course although the idea is to give the illusion of a well scrubbed midwestern girl they’re just as if not more artificial than any eyelinered rock n’ roller, but I think the idea he’s expressing is not actually a lack of artifice but a lack of recognizable artifice, and thus a lack of self expression.  He wants women who don’t speak, who don’t have individual personalities, because that allows for mass appeal, and purer objectification.  Fuck that shit, I’ll wear all the damn eyeliner I please.

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December 26, 2010
headphones after midnight: emilyswash: this ain’t livin’: Beyond the Binary: Transition The...

crustyriotqueer:

emilyswash:

this ain’t livin’: Beyond the Binary: Transition

The medical community doesn’t really recognise nonbinary gender in general, and there’s resistance to it in some sectors of the transgender community. Among people who aren’t binarist, there’s a lack of understanding about what it means to be nonbinary, and many people think ‘oh, they don’t need to transition.’ This isn’t the result of bigotry, simply ignorance, because the numbers of out nonbinary people are relatively low and we are so diverse; people interacting with me, for example, cannot and should not take me as representative of all nonbinary people. We ourselves, trapped in a highly binary culture, are not always sure about the need for transition. Some questions I get asked a lot by nonbinary people looking for help and support are ‘can I transition?’ ‘do I need to transition?’ ‘how do I transition?’ I know that my body is not in alignment with my gender. I want to transition. But I can’t. I cannot access hormones and surgery because nonbinary people are not recognised and there isn’t a standard when it comes to talking about transitioning for us. And I myself get tangled in binary ideas about gender performance, like feeling guilty about the fact that I usually wear women’s clothing because that’s what fits this body. Feeling bad when I femme up because obviously I’m not a girl so I shouldn’t do girly things like wearing skirts and dresses. Feeling like I have to perform my gender at all times or I’m a fake, even though there is no established and accepted way to perform nonbinary gender; in a world where gender performance is everything, I can’t find my lines, the set, or my costume. When I interact with my body, I know that it feels wrong to me but it’s hard to articulate how, and if I discussed the things about my body that I want to change with a doctor, I would probably be slapped with a psychiatric diagnosis, rather than being supported with transition.

bolded emphasis mine

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December 18, 2010
What’s the point in saying “No homo”? No one’s going to think you’re gay if you tell your friend you love them. I don’t go to my little sister and say “I love you. No incest”. If i’m at my Grandfather’s grave, i don’t go “I love you. No Necrophilia”

sapphrikah:

Exactly, stop being so insecure with your sexuality. If you’re straight, you know you’re straight, so you don’t have anything to worry about. Stop making it sound like to be like me would be like getting the plague.

Get over yourself.

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December 12, 2010
"

People are taking the piss out of you everyday. They butt into your life, take a cheap shot at you and then disappear. They leer at you from tall buildings and make you feel small. They make flippant comments from buses that imply you’re not sexy enough and that all the fun is happening somewhere else. They are on TV making your girlfriend feel inadequate. They have access to the most sophisticated technology the world has ever seen and they bully you with it. They are “The Advertisers” and they are laughing at you.

You, however, are forbidden to touch them. Trademarks, intellectual property rights and copyright law mean advertisers can say what they like wherever they like with total impunity.

Fuck that. Any advert in a public space that gives you no choice whether you see it or not is yours. It’s yours to take, re-arrange and re-use. You can do whatever you like with it. Asking for permission is like asking to keep a rock someone just threw at your head.

You owe the companies nothing. Less than nothing, you especially don’t owe them any courtesy. They owe you. They have re-arranged the world to put themselves in front of you. They never asked for your permission, don’t even start asking for theirs.

"

— Banksy. this is most appropriate after my readings tonight (consumption + culture).  (via so-treu)

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December 2, 2010

telescopics:

toxicnotebook:

WATCH. REBLOG. NOW NOW NOW.

sparrowing-x:

alliterate:

dancingonembers:

litachu:

interesting concept

*knocks over chair, standing ovation*

YES.

HOLY BALLS THIS IS AWESOME

“Do you want me to wait til later?”

This this this this this. I’ve been told multiple times that my issues with the “It Gets Better” project are because I’m an impatient teenager and I don’t want to wait. Um, excuse me? I don’t want to wait? I shouldn’t fucking have to wait. I shouldn’t have to wait until I pass as a cis guy to be able to use the male bathrooms without being harrassed or catcalled or threatened. I shouldn’t have to wait until I’m legally male to be able to get a job where I’m protected from discrimination. I shouldn’t have to live in a world where the next person I meet on the street might be my attacker, my rapist, my murderer. I shouldn’t have to live every day with the knowledge that I could be the one out of each twelve trans people who will be killed for being who I am. 

I shouldn’t have to wait, and neither should anyone else.

It gets better? What, when you escape? When you run away from the bigots? And what happens when you can’t get away? Too bad, so sad?

No. No, it shouldn’t fucking “get better”. We should make it better, by educating people and by forcing them to realise that we are here, we are queer, and we are not going to fucking give in to their hatred.

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