consulting-meerkat:

charlotteness:

heylauren:

BECAUSE GENITALS.

oh the glory of this answer. 

BECAUSE GENITALS.
yes.

consulting-meerkat:

charlotteness:

heylauren:

BECAUSE GENITALS.

oh the glory of this answer. 

BECAUSE GENITALS.

yes.

(Source: sergeantjerkbarnes, via fuckyeahlgbt)

Tags: sexuality

"We don’t need to justify ourselves to anyone. We don’t need a reason to be queer. Maybe we were born this way, maybe we weren’t. Maybe sexuality is fluid for some people and not for others. It’s totally irrelevant either way. The message we need to send to heterosexists is not that our sexuality was foisted upon us and that they should be ‘tolerant’ and ‘understanding’. The message is: our sexuality is perfectly valid and none of your business, we offer you no excuses, and we are never going away."

— Social Justice League: Fauxgress Watch: “Born This Way”. (via feminismduh)

(via thingsthatverbme)

to elaborate

a-bayani:

saschaeatsteeth:

missvoltairine:

there are many people for whom the fight for the right to marry is part and parcel of the fight for the right to access to better healthcare, housing, financial stability, immigration and citizenship status, the protection of their children, and general acceptance and protection from harassment and violence within their religious, rural, etc communities. 

I’m tired of the idea that marriage can be separated from these issues while the institution of marriage remains as it is. I’m tired of this compartmentalization of peoples’ civil rights. This shit is connected and if you want to talk about privilege in the discourse around gay marriage let’s talk about the privilege of being able to ignore how connected it really is.

Which is something rich white cis gay dudes like Dan Savage do all the time when they centre “traditional” gay families in these discussions! It’s true! That’s shitty and I hate it! Tear it down!

But it’s ALSO something I see ~radical queerz~ doing, even while they do it under the guise of attacking mainstream queers who do it? And I find that to be just a tad hypocritical.

As I find it a tad hypocritical to ignore, marginalize, and malign people or whom access to marriage can mean survival because Dan Savage is a bigoted asshole.

How are we ever going to de-centre dudes like that if we continue to frame even our resistance to hegemony in terms of them, comparing marginalized people to them, etc?

If you want to destroy the social institution of marriage - yay! I’m all for that! let’s do it! - start with the people who have the least to lose by having their access to that institution restricted. IE, NOT QUEER AND TRANS PEOPLE. Abolish cis straight marriage! Or, like I’ve said: focus on building us clear, accessible, and effective alternatives to marriage for things like immigration and citizenship processes, child protection, health care access and visitation rights, etc - make THAT part of your resistance to “queer assimilation”.

Stop treating this like a theoretical exercise in What A Queer Utopia Should Be Like - looking at you, Dean Spade! - because it’s not. It’s peoples’ real lives and survival.

but this isn’t a simplified concept that fits on a patch for my vest

i was nodding & nodding and then almost spit out/choked on my water omg sascha

(via a-bayani-deactivated20121004)

a-bayani:

stuavg:

(Poem-in-progress performed at the Stories of Queer Diaspora event on June 17th, 2012)

Don’t Compromise Me

I am crazy and angry and hurt and healing and pissed off and passionate and beautiful and ugly and queer and brown and I am a threat.

I am a threat to the flimsy definitions of gender, of queer, of mixed race Two Spirit Mexican.

I am a threat to the homo and hetero norms of beauty because my CROOKED YELLOW TEETH SCARRED BODY and ugliness are pieces of my beauty.

I am a threat to the colonizing forces on my land and to the Whites who see me as Other or a ‘special interest’ rather than a human.

I am a threat to the idea that self-injury is harmful because hunny, my wounds bleed truths that your self-help books could never speak.

I am a threat to the idea that crazy people can’t be loved because yes, yes they can be, have been, and will be and yes, they fucking DESERVE to be and yes oh fucking yes do I have my turn comin

You see, I waited in line at the Capitol building like a good lil’ queer liberal to protest for my rights only to feel tokenized, exploited, and shamed for speaking out.

Out, like when I came out as gay and again as trans and again as mentally fucked and I all asked for was love, but received brutal systemic and personal violence, isolation, and abandonment.

So yes, I am a threat on all fronts. I am unapologetically crazy and angry and hurt and healing and pissed off and passionate and beautiful and ugly and queer and brown.

So don’t fucking compromise me.

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

(via a-bayani-deactivated20121004)

gowns:

josé julio sarria, gay latino who ran for public office in 1961 - many many years before harvey milk

he ran for the san francisco board of supervisors and almost won by default, until people noticed there was a gay man running and immediately submitted everyone possible for the position. he didn’t win, but he still got 6000 votes, which shocked conservatives
he was also a drag queen popular at many of the balls at the time…and he still does it today (lookin good for a guy in his late 80s)!

+ he has worked with political activism and community organizing his entire life!

gowns:

josé julio sarria, gay latino who ran for public office in 1961 - many many years before harvey milk

he ran for the san francisco board of supervisors and almost won by default, until people noticed there was a gay man running and immediately submitted everyone possible for the position. he didn’t win, but he still got 6000 votes, which shocked conservatives

he was also a drag queen popular at many of the balls at the time…and he still does it today (lookin good for a guy in his late 80s)!

+ he has worked with political activism and community organizing his entire life!

(via fuckyeahqueerfemme)

Tags: sexuality

friendlyatheist:

You can’t vote on civil rights. That is why they are called rights.

friendlyatheist:

You can’t vote on civil rights. That is why they are called rights.

(Source: thealogian, via fuckyeahlgbt)

Tags: sexuality

jonathan-cunningham:

By Barry Deutsch of Leftycartoons.com

jonathan-cunningham:

By Barry Deutsch of Leftycartoons.com

"

This is why liberated female sexuality is so threatening. Conservative ideology holds that men and women are opposites. Men like sex, and so in order to keep the ideology intact, women can’t. In this world, women instead want male approval and of course babies, and sex is something they have to endure to get it. Contraception and especially abortion undermine this theory, not just because they can’t conceive of a woman saying no to babies, but also because they’re operating under an image of pregnancy as being something that gets men who otherwise want nothing to do with women (outside of sex) to commit. That women themselves say no to babies but yes to sex makes it hard to believe that it’s just women putting up with sex to get marriage-and-babies. That women often choose abortion in order to avoid marriage and babies (at least at this point in time) sends them around the bend. It suggests that people are individuals, not easily categorized genders with predictable and opposite behavior.

If you won’t choose it, then they feel that they’re in their rights to force it. When women can’t access contraception and abortion, sex is, in fact, less fun for them because it’s fraught. It does, in fact, introduce a power imbalance to sexual interactions between men and women because women are vulnerable in a way men aren’t. Giving men that power over women restores what conservatives believe is the proper order. If they can shame women and convince them that only sluts like sex, they can also get women to engage as enforcers, implying that they’re too good for that dirty sex stuff, unlike those lesser women. (Exhibit A.) That just bolsters the illusion that male and female sexuality are very different, and in that difference, they can find leverage to argue—-though indirectly, as is their habit—-that women are lesser than men.

"

Amanda Marcotte (via greaterthanlapsed)

It does, in fact, introduce a power imbalance to sexual interactions between men and women because women are vulnerable in a way men aren’t.”
(Le sigh at gendered language, but the point still stands.)

(via existentialcrisisfactory)

"

Stop degrading the act of sex by calling it “opening your legs.”

I’m so sick of women being degraded all the time. Because women just, you know, lay back and “spread their legs” and let men do whatever they want. They don’t take any active role in the actual sex act or enjoy it. They are just objects that lay there with their legs open. Then they are stupid because through poor judgement or mishap, they became pregnant. The man is never blamed or shamed or degraded for having sex. There are no phrases used to degrade the act of a man participating in a sexual act, at least not a heterosexual one.

I swear if I could punch people in the face for saying “they shouldn’t have spread their legs” I would. I don’t even care if they are someone in my family or my friends. That is how fucking pissed I get when people say hateful shit like that about women.

No issue is black and white. Women have abortions for many reasons. Shit happens. The fetus ends up being deformed and would not live; the woman just ended a previously stable relationship; the woman or couple has children already and cannot afford any more at the moment; The couple may have used birth control but it failed; the woman just found out she has a serious illness and will not be able to carry a pregnancy to term; the woman was raped, etc.

So fuck you and your hatred of women. Negativity about sex is disgusting and harmful.

"

— flowersarebetterthanbullets on This Post (I made this a quote, because the original picture with text was visually offensive to my eyes. These pro-life people need to take a graphic design class.)

(Source: plasticvines, via humbles)

jazn:

Johnny Galecki about gay rumors [x]

Johnny Galecki ♥

Why is everyone on this show just so awesome?

Oh shit. YESSSS!

(Source: jimparsonses, via ladyspeakstheblues)

Tags: sexuality

"I think women are encouraged to be into sex, but we’re encouraged to be into sex in a very performative way, and we also aren’t supposed to be too excited about sex, because then we’re seen as “easy” or “slutty”. There’s nothing wrong with doing sexy things because you like looking sexy, but I think a lot of women feel as though we MUST look sexy in a certain way, and that’s really limiting and stifling. On the one hand, if we don’t seem to enjoy sex in this very performative way then we’re seen as “prudes”; at the same time, if we seem to enjoy sex too much then we’re seen as “sluts”. It’s a tightrope."

— Clarisse Thorn (Interview with a sex-positive feminist — Feministe)

(via sexisnottheenemy)

"And even if we like sex that is rough or that explores rape fantasies, even if we love or have deep appreciation for masculine energy regardless of the body that it comes in - the fact of the matter is that the consent is what turns us on. We are giving permission to ourselves to be submissive and this in fact is a reclaiming of our bodies in a culture that decries that it is our ‘no’s’ that mean ‘yes’. It is possible to protest misogyny with my legs spread wide open and I am going to just that. - For Femmes Of Colour Who Rose Too Early & Set Too Soon"

http://queergiftedblack.blogspot.com/2011/05/for-femmes-of-colour-who-rose-too-early.html (via queergiftedblack)

(via ladyspeakstheblues)

"Queer doesn’t mean “don’t label me,” it means “I am naming myself.” It means “ask me more questions if you[‘re] curious” and in the same breath means “fuck off.”"

What Queerness Means to Me | Tranarchism (via doxian)

(Source: thatsnotbeautiful, via sapphrikah)

howtobenoladarling:

Abstract (full article)

This article is a study of sex, politics and lyrical literature across what could be called

“Hip-Hop & Hip-Hop Soul.” It champions the concept “sexual consciousness”

against popular and academic assumptions that construe “sexuality” and

"From Erykah Badu, audiences expect ‘consciousness,’ or what passes for ‘consciousness’ in a society that confuses middleclass ‘respectability’ and  puritanical hypocrisy for so-called ‘consciousness.’  This would be an anti-sexual ‘consciousness’ which conceals, when possible, its own ‘guilty pleasures’ in confined and concealed, privatized spaces.  From these spaces, Black and other promoters of puritanism can emerge to denounce those who are bold enough to renounce or disregard white bourgeois ‘morality,’ to expose it even as immoral itself."
+

[On Sylvia Wynter] “She would note that more than any other concept in European philosophy, it is the concept of ‘consciousness’ that has defied adequate definition in the West, Europe and North America.  She would also pinpoint its mind/body split, its basic, artificial opposition of ‘rationality’ and ‘sexuality’ (or ‘sensuality’), as a central  part of the problem.  Nevertheless, this is the notion of ‘consciousness’ upheld by intellectuals and critics, all over the world now over the past five hundred-plus years;  and this is why ‘consciousness’ calls  to be completely rethought—in radical resistance to oppressions and repressions of all kinds.  A contradiction in terms for the dominant society, the concept of sexual consciousness can go a long way in this direction toward the subversion of ‘Western Man’ and the creation of ‘a new humanity,’ or ‘a new society,’ which is neither racist nor sexist nor bourgeois or class elitist nor homophobic, etc.” 

Tags: sexuality