Every time I hear “Hate the sin, love the sinner” I want to scream.
My existence is not a sin. I’m not a sinner for existing. You do not “love” me if you feel this way.
A strong, unquestioned underlying premise many people have with these thoughts is, 'You should be flattered, I thought you were normal.'"
Sometimes it’s followed by that ancient monosexual proverb “well, do you think there is something wrong with being gay/straight?”
No, it’s just that I keep telling you who I am and you clearly don’t understand and/or don’t like the answer. You are annoying.
If you think being gay is a sin or an aberration or unnatural, you are homophobic. This is why (to leggy’s comment) my father is homophobic. Thinking it’s a curse that killed my cousin so you going to pray for me? HOMOPHOBIA.
If you say you ‘have no problem’ with gay people, but you just don’t want them anywhere near you, you’re homophobic.
If you don’t like it when gay people are flamboyant and expressive in public and wish they would just try to blend in better, you’re homophobic.
If you assume that anytime a gay person touches you or is friendly to you, they’re making a sexual advance on you, you’re homophobic. Also applies if you think gay people are attracted to everyone just because they’re gay.
If you’re disgusted by seeing gay people kiss or be affectionate to each other in public, or say you don’t want kids to see that, you are a homophobe. Especially if you’re ok with seeing that in straight interactions. And it’s silly to say, oh, I wouldn’t my kids exposed to straight kissing either, because it’s impossible to shelter kids from straight sexual shit- look at most commercials, movies, Disney cartoons.
If you have a fear of being perceived as gay or lesbian, that’s homophobia, too. I’m not even touching on the ‘strictly dickly’ shit. o_O. ‘No homo’ goes in there too.
If you’re concerned about the effect that a gay person will have in your job, program, school, etc, that’s homophobic.
If you use the terms ‘gay’, ‘queer’, ‘fag’, etc to convey a negative impression, that’s homophobic.
If you’re in favor of anything that denies gay people equal treatment and rights as straight people, you’re a homophobe.
If you think gay people are dangerous to children and shouldn’t be allowed near them (including adoption), you’re a bloody homophobe.
If you’re down with gay rights, but homosexuality still grosses you out, here’s your homophobia badge."
Because most homophobes aren’t aware of their homophobia or are in denial. Ugh.
Conor Gaughan - “We Are Not Arguing Over Chicken” (Huffington Post)
Do you remember when we met
in Gomorrah? When you were still beardless,
and I would oil my hair in the lamp light before seeing
you, when we were young, and blushed with youth
like bruised fruit. Did we care then
what our neighbors did
in the dark?
When our first daughter was born
on the River Jordan, when our second
cracked her pink head from my body
like a promise, did we worry
what our friends might be
doing with their tongues?
What new crevices they found
to lick love into or strange flesh
to push pleasure from, when we
called them Sodomites then,
all we meant by it
When the angels told us to run
from the city, I went with you,
but even the angels knew
that women always look back.
Let me describe for you, Lot,
what your city looked like burning
since you never turned around to see it.
Sulfur ran its sticky fingers over the skin
of our countrymen. It smelled like burning hair
and rancid eggs. I watched as our friends pulled
chunks of brimstone from their faces. Is any form
of loving this indecent?
Cover your eyes tight,
husband, until you see stars, convince
yourself you are looking at Heaven.
Because any man weak enough to hide his eyes while his neighbors
are punished for the way they love deserves a vengeful god.
I would say these things to you now, Lot,
but an ocean has dried itself on my tongue.
So instead I will stand here, while my body blows itself
grain by grain back over the Land of Canaan.
I will stand here
and I will watch you