attention non-english speakers who have struggled to find gender neutral pronouns

zouisgate:

there is a very good compilation of gender neutral pronouns in a variety of different languages that can be found here! it’s really helpful and a lot of thought and help has gone into it from people who speak these as their native language! i definitely recommend you go check it out

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shit i am tired of

fruitdew:

cis people get pronouns. trans people get preferred pronouns.

cis people get a gender. trans people get to identify as a gender.

these are microaggressions designed to undermine and invalidate who we know ourselves to be, and to reinforce the perceived inauthenticity of trans people.

this is always harmful, and for some, primarily trans feminine people and esp trans feminine poc, it can be dangerous or deadly.

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aspergersissues:

flying-inca56:

shoutout to the autistic girls, boys, and nonbianaries that refuse to wear pants and instead wear skirts because of the wonderful swishy feeling

shoutout to the autistics that grow their hair long because its a wonderful stim toy and also a protective curtain from the world

shoutout to the autistics with makeup and fashion as a special interest 

shoutout to autistics who have their identities invalidated because of their love of traditionally feminine things 

I used to fall into these categories.

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vulcanbotanist:

Shout out to femme nonbinary folks who have their identities questioned because they don’t live up to a patriarchal definition of androgyny

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Anonymous said: How do I discuss abortion in a gender neutral way? I don't want to be hurtful when I talk about abortion.

arguing-about-abortions:

Thanks for asking!

Problem Language: Woman/Women  
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People 
Sentence: “I support a person’s right to choose.” - “People having on demand access to abortion in crucial.”

Problem Language: Pregnant Women/Woman
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/People
Sentence: “A pregnant person is most likely to abort in the first trimester.” - “Unsafe abortion is a leading killer of pregnant people.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People who can become pregnant.
Sentence: “A person who can become pregnant should be able to seek reproductive health services without laws or stigma getting in the way.” - “Over 3/4 of people who can become pregnant do not have an abortion provider in their county.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People this issue affects.
Sentence: “1 in 3 people this issue affects will have an abortion by age 40.” - “A person this issue affects may have difficulty affording an abortion.”

Problem Language: Mother 
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/Parent
Sentence: “The chance of the pregnant person feeling regret after an abortion is actually statistically low.” - “The parent decided to terminate the pregnancy to take better care of their existing child.”

I did not include “People with uteruses” or “Person with a uterus” due to trans and Non-binary people telling me they find it triggering and reducing them to body parts. There’s plenty of alternatives, so let’s make our spaces safe and comfortable for everyone. 

This should make it extremely clear what language to use and how to use it. If I have forgotten something or I am suggesting problematic language please let me know and I’ll make alterations. 

sistahmamaqueen:

lesbianspaceprincex:

Transcript:

FOR ALL MY HOMEGURLS WHO ARE SEMI/NON-PASSABLE 

you’re fucking beautiful.
no question. no doubts. no “if”s “but”s or “umm”s about that.
you. are. fucking. beautiful.

yes bitch, you missed a spot shaving.
yes gurl, you have some 5 o’clock shadow coming in under your foundation.
yes sweetheart, your body shape doesn’t have JLo or Beyoncé curves

AND you are still fucking beautiful.
no questions. no doubts. no ifs/buts/umms about that.

yes ma’am you work that $5 thrift store dress
or that $50 H&M dress you had to hustle for.
yes bitch you work that job where you’re gendered he/him/his
and come home to a loved one that will call you
- Princess
- Queen
- Survivor Goddess
BECAUSE THAT’S WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE

no questions. no doubts. no ifs/buts/umms about that.

yes gurl your dating pools feels smaller than your last man’s dick
but i promise you
i promise you with every magic star we’re made of
that you will
you will
you will
have a love that cares for you in ways that will transform you
a love that will nourish you
a love that will make romantic comedies seem too complicated

no questions. no doubts. no ifs/buts/umms about that.

gurl, maybe you’re not a gurl.
maybe you’re non-binary or barely binary or what’s a binary?
and that’s great.
you are you and i promise to see you through and through.

rock your hairy legs and pits and face
and maybe shave them sometimes
or maybe shave them all the time
and hate how prickly and quickly the hair grows back

it’s a reminder of how quickly and prickly our healing will be
but not our love
not our lives
it doesn’t have to be that way

i can’t lie and say our lives will be bread on butter
it won’t be as smooth as banana peels
and it may not be as glamorous as fame.

i can say that we are special
not an exception nor a rule.
not an oddity, but a rarity.

we are fucking magical.
we are more than fantasies and wishlists.
we are more than hookers and hos
(and it’s totally okay to embrace that identity too
because // let’s be real // that’s our hustle boo)

it’s okay
homegurl
ask for more

ask the sun to dim its light
demand the moon pull the tide up close to your feet
shake the earth with thighs freckled with ingrown hairs
scream your needs and i promise our ancestors who died for our liberation
will come

they will come

if you ask yourself,
would you save your younger self?
would you love your younger self who needed you?

if you answer yes,
the spirits will come to you
they will protect you
they will bless you

no questions. no doubts. no ifs/buts/umms about that.

homegurls,
the only thing we’ll ever pass as
is ourselves
in all of our unique, ethereal glory.

when you love yourself
you are loving all of those who look like you
who are caught in similar intersections like you

when you love yourself
you are loving me
when i love me
i am loving you

we deserve each other
and more than what this world has to offer

so order a new dessert you’ve always wanted to try
ride that vibrator to orgasmic ecstasy
make out with that cutie
buy all the clothes and make up and accessories you desire
and maybe find a good friend/lover/suga daddy to fund these delicacies
and enjoy your life as you please.

no questions. no doubts. no ifs/but/umms about that.

some powerful fucking shit right hurrrrr

This is everything.

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Just a little heads up for aspiring public speakers out there!

cuddly-morrigan:

The gender neutral term for “ladies and gentleman” is “distinguished guests”. This has been around since at least the 60s, so no one is going to question your use of it.

Please, please use this along with “ladies and gentlemen” if you aren’t entirely sure of the gender of your audience.

Thank you!

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femmesandfamily:

deadladyofclowntown:

amaresempra:

Everyone please repeat after me:
You can be genderfluid and not appear androgynous

You do not have to wear your gender/genderfluidity/agender in a socially acceptable manner only.

You do not have to meet other peoples standard of what your gender looks/acts/sounds like.

THIS. 

READ THIS BABY

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gqid:

feministhalestorm submitted to gqid:

Some thoughts of mine on the topic of not feeling like you’re “trans enough” to identify as it.

I’m genderqueer: I feel no connection to being a man or a woman, I prefer gender-neutral pronouns, and I get dysphoric - but I sometimes feel guilty about identifying as trans*. After all: sometimes I can go days without feeling uncomfortable, I’m not (currently) taking hormones and… well, my experiences don’t seem to quite match up with the dramatic and saddening accounts from trans people.
 
Rationally, this feeling doesn’t make a huge amount of sense. I identify as a gender different to that I was assigned at birth, so I’m trans* - by definition. It’s hard, though, to shake the feeling of not belonging - the feeling that my experiences are somehow less valid than binary trans* people, people who suffer more dysphoria than I or people undertaking a medical transition.
Rest of the post is available here.

Relate. When asked if I’m trans*, I never say yes. Or no. Hence my username here, actually. I kept being asked, so I found a quote by Dr. Seuss that avoids answering that question: “I’m a zizzer zazzer zuzz, as you can plainly see.”

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Transphobia within the Trans* community —

vaganja:

First off, anons really have some nerve trying to “ridicule” mothafuckas on here when they’re hiding behind some gray face, but whatever - thats not the point of this post. 

My point is that someone just messaged Trent saying:

“This whole trans thing you’re announcing on tumblr is such bullshit and is offensive to people that actually struggle with their gender identity. Unless you actually attempt to pass as a guy or take hormones you’re not trans. This pretence doesn’t shock or challenge anyone, it seems like a desperate attempt to get attention/notoriety.”

See, that’s that shit I just don’t understand. Let’s break this down, shall we?

  1. Who the fuck are YOU to question someone else’s gender identity?
  2. Gender identity is about self determination right? Key word being “self”.
  3. Who the fuck are YOU to police someone’s transition? Not everyone can or wants to physically transition. Some people socially transition.
  4. You really need to reevaluate your thoughts and feels on the gender binary. After all what does a guy look like? Really though. 
  5. SOME TRANS* PEOPLE DON’T GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK THEY SHOULD OR SHOULDN’T LOOK LIKE. 
  6. News Flash: Passing isn’t everything to every trans* person. 
  7. It’s people like you that make gender non-conforming trans* folks feel like they don’t belong. 
  8. As though, we don’t have enough boxes being thrown at us. 
  9. You need to challenge ya damn self.
  10. Fuck off.
"‘Passing’ necessarily makes ‘failing’ the fault of the trans* person who doesn’t try hard enough to fit into a stereotyped role of the ‘opposite’ gender, rather than the fault of the systemically and unfalteringly transphobic society that only believes in binary genders, and dictates a very certain, very narrow way for trans* people to be accepted as one of those two genders. The struggle is enough for trans* men and women, but what of the few people who don’t want to be seen as either female or male?"

Pass/fail: Navigating a World that doesn’t Believe your Gender Exists (via ninjabikeslut)

like seriously…

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Maybe that’s why some trans* people believe that nonbinary people don’t have dysphoria/ have it easier—because if they aren’t struggling to pass as one gender or the other, then there would be no issue. Not saying I believe that (I am nonbinary), I’ve just wondered why pass/fail gets painted as a binary trans* issue.

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amydentata:

superqueerartsyblog:

✿ Walking talking queer encyclopedia with a healthy rose-cheeked smile! ✿

Not pictured: Punching bag accessory, for when The Cis (read like “the Sith”) feel like bullying.

amydentata:

superqueerartsyblog:

✿ Walking talking queer encyclopedia with a healthy rose-cheeked smile! ✿

Not pictured: Punching bag accessory, for when The Cis (read like “the Sith”) feel like bullying.

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artactivistnia:

severelycalm:

thegenderpurple:


I am a gay woman of colour. I have studied Gender and Sexuality for four years, am getting my Masters in the same, have acted for many years in drag, and want to eventually write a book about Drag and Gendered Performance.
And here is what unnerves me a little about the androgyny on Tumblr. I feel alienated by it. For the simple reason that my body/mind/sexuality is left out. Androgyny is an aesthetic. But it is also gender performance, an intellectual perspective and a sexual identity. I am androgynous. Not by aesthetic always. My clothing may reflect it sometimes. I spend a lot of time in drag, and my gender identity encompasses every breast-bind, every change of shadow on my face. But it is not my only body. And I have many bodies, and many mental states, and many bedroom moves – and they are androgynous.
Don’t get me wrong. Aesthetically androgynous women are GORGEOUS. Aesthetic androgyny is GLORIOUS. I am uber attracted to androgynous ladies. Have dated quite a few. But it is not the only androgyny. And sometimes, I want people to remember me. To recognize that you don’t need to know me to consider the possibility of a particular identity. To remember that this identity lies in my stride, in my gender performance, in my mind. To know that I can bend my gender to match you, to contrast to yours, and to fit my will. And all of it is authentic, is genuine, is mine.
I use my makeup to gloss my mouth and shade my eyes sometimes, and to texture my facial hair and draw on a mustache sometimes. The same tools on the same body. The same mind in the same body. A combination of masculine and feminine in the same body.
See me. I can be anything from femme to super butch to quite a motherfucking sexy drag king. I’m not going to wax Foucauldian about gender identities, because I want to break it down to this – androgyny is more than its popular representation. It is something that is visceral, and I do not want it underrepresented. And I am nervous because I don’t want to encroach on the aesthetically androgynous groups, but I want to make myself heard. ANDROGYNY IS OF THE MIND. Beyond all else.
Sometimes it looks like me. Like this. 


This is important; also I’m posting this because god damn, this person is fine.

Posting this mainly for QPOC visibility reasons. Skinny white people do not own androgyny. Just sayin’.

And all of it is authentic, is genuine, is mine.

artactivistnia:

severelycalm:

thegenderpurple:

I am a gay woman of colour. I have studied Gender and Sexuality for four years, am getting my Masters in the same, have acted for many years in drag, and want to eventually write a book about Drag and Gendered Performance.

And here is what unnerves me a little about the androgyny on Tumblr. I feel alienated by it. For the simple reason that my body/mind/sexuality is left out. Androgyny is an aesthetic. But it is also gender performance, an intellectual perspective and a sexual identity. I am androgynous. Not by aesthetic always. My clothing may reflect it sometimes. I spend a lot of time in drag, and my gender identity encompasses every breast-bind, every change of shadow on my face. But it is not my only body. And I have many bodies, and many mental states, and many bedroom moves – and they are androgynous.

Don’t get me wrong. Aesthetically androgynous women are GORGEOUS. Aesthetic androgyny is GLORIOUS. I am uber attracted to androgynous ladies. Have dated quite a few. But it is not the only androgyny. And sometimes, I want people to remember me. To recognize that you don’t need to know me to consider the possibility of a particular identity. To remember that this identity lies in my stride, in my gender performance, in my mind. To know that I can bend my gender to match you, to contrast to yours, and to fit my will. And all of it is authentic, is genuine, is mine.

I use my makeup to gloss my mouth and shade my eyes sometimes, and to texture my facial hair and draw on a mustache sometimes. The same tools on the same body. The same mind in the same body. A combination of masculine and feminine in the same body.

See me. I can be anything from femme to super butch to quite a motherfucking sexy drag king. I’m not going to wax Foucauldian about gender identities, because I want to break it down to this – androgyny is more than its popular representation. It is something that is visceral, and I do not want it underrepresented. And I am nervous because I don’t want to encroach on the aesthetically androgynous groups, but I want to make myself heard. ANDROGYNY IS OF THE MIND. Beyond all else.

Sometimes it looks like me. Like this. 

This is important; also I’m posting this because god damn, this person is fine.

Posting this mainly for QPOC visibility reasons. Skinny white people do not own androgyny. Just sayin’.

And all of it is authentic, is genuine, is mine.

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SOME DAYS TRANSITIONING CAN BE SUCH A CRASH COURSE IN PUBLIC SCRUTINY. ITS AS IF THE GENERAL PUBLIC FORGOT THE BASIC IDEA THAT ITS RUDE TO STARE. ITS GETTING ON A TRAIN FILLED WITH EYES DETERMINED TO DECIPHER MY BODY AND ITS COVERINGS WITH CODES AND SEMIOTIC SYSTEMS THAT CAN’T EVEN RECOGNIZE MY FACE. ITS CIS MEN, OLD AND YOUNG, FLUCTUATING BETWEEN DISGUST, SEXUAL INTEREST AND/OR A REFUSAL TO ENGAGE EITHER OF THE TWO. ITS CIS WOMEN, YOUNG AND OLD, SPITTING ON MY FACE WITH THEIR EYES, SHAMING ME WITH GLARES. ITS A WORLD OF PEOPLE HURRYING TO GET TO THEIR 9 TO 5 AND TRUCK IT BACK HOME BEFORE THEY HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE SPACE I’M PRESUMED TO NATURALLY INHABIT - THE UNREGULATED LAISSEZ-FAIRE MARKET OF DESIRE SYMBOLIZED BY THE NIGHT. I AM AN UNWELCOME REMINDER THAT THEIR WORLD IS AN ILLUSION. A VIRUS INCARNATE

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thatisnotfeminism:

“equality”

thatisnotfeminism:

“equality”

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