Anonymous said: How do I discuss abortion in a gender neutral way? I don't want to be hurtful when I talk about abortion.

arguing-about-abortions:

Thanks for asking!

Problem Language: Woman/Women  
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People 
Sentence: “I support a person’s right to choose.” - “People having on demand access to abortion in crucial.”

Problem Language: Pregnant Women/Woman
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/People
Sentence: “A pregnant person is most likely to abort in the first trimester.” - “Unsafe abortion is a leading killer of pregnant people.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People who can become pregnant.
Sentence: “A person who can become pregnant should be able to seek reproductive health services without laws or stigma getting in the way.” - “Over 3/4 of people who can become pregnant do not have an abortion provider in their county.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People this issue affects.
Sentence: “1 in 3 people this issue affects will have an abortion by age 40.” - “A person this issue affects may have difficulty affording an abortion.”

Problem Language: Mother 
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/Parent
Sentence: “The chance of the pregnant person feeling regret after an abortion is actually statistically low.” - “The parent decided to terminate the pregnancy to take better care of their existing child.”

I did not include “People with uteruses” or “Person with a uterus” due to trans and Non-binary people telling me they find it triggering and reducing them to body parts. There’s plenty of alternatives, so let’s make our spaces safe and comfortable for everyone. 

This should make it extremely clear what language to use and how to use it. If I have forgotten something or I am suggesting problematic language please let me know and I’ll make alterations. 

sapphrikah:

Digable Planets was teachin’ you pro-choice, but white feminists only know about Bikini Kill.

"And there was Nikki
Lookin’ some kind of sad with tears fallin’ from her eyes
She sat me down, and dug my frown and began to run it down
“You remember my boyfriend Sid, that fly kid who I love
Well our love was often a verb and spontaneity has brought a third
But due to our youth an economic state, we wish to terminate
About this we don’t feel great, but baby, that’s how it is
But the feds have dissed me
They ignore and dismiss me
The pro-lifers harass me outside the clinic
And call me a murderer, now that’s hate
So needless to say, we’re in a mental state of debate”
“Hey, beautiful bird” I said, digging her somber mood
“The fascists are some heavy dudes
They don’t really give a damn about life
They just don’t want a woman to control her body
Or have the right to choose
But baby that ain’t nothin’
They just want a male finger on the button
Because if you say war, they will send them to die by the score
Aborting mission should be your volition
But if Souter and Thomas have their way
You’ll be standing in line unable to get Welfare while they’ll be out
Hunting and fishing
It has always been around, it will always have a niche
But they’ll make it a privilege, not a right
Accessible only to the rich
Hey, Pro-lifers should dig themselves
Because life doesn’t stop after birth
And to a child born to the unprepared
It might even just get worse
The situation would surely change if they were to find themselves in it
Supporters of the H-Bomb, and fire-bombing clinics
What type of shit is that? Orwellian, in fact
If Roe v. Wade was overturned, would not the desire remain intact
Leaving young girls to risk their healths
And doctors to botch, and watch as they kill themselves
I don’t want to sound macabre
But hey, isn’t it my job
To lay it on the masses and get them off their asses
To fight against these fascists
So, whatever you decide, make that move with pride
Sid will be there and so will I”

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pocproblems:

shinjiprince:

cosmiccrystals:

sweetupndown9:

These Women Are About To Tell You Some Things That Are Absolutely None Of Your Business

Holy shit women on fire. This video gave me chills. If you do nothing at all today - watch this!

this shit is fucking A+++++++++++++++++ omg perfection 

these ladies spittin’ some real shit ya’ll better pay attention

That world has arrived

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sapphrikah:

YESSSS THIS WAS EVERYTHINGGG.

(Source: edonaghey)

Tags: abortion

"‎I do not believe that just because you’re opposed to abortion, that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. And why would I think that you don’t? Because you don’t want any tax money to go there. That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is."

Sister Joan Chittister, Catholic Nun (via timehasflewn)

holy shit i love this quote

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Tags: abortion

pixiemoon42:

k—rot:

MADI!
I got to write those words on the torso :3

words of wisdom

"It’s my body, not your political agenda."

pixiemoon42:

k—rot:

MADI!

I got to write those words on the torso :3

words of wisdom

"It’s my body, not your political agenda."

(Source: chrissy-chaos-remains, via sapphrikah)

Tags: abortion quote

greaterthanlapsed:

panasonicyouth:

madamethursday:

[Image: A picture of several smiling white people lined up in front of a van that says “save the storks” with a picture of a stork on it, underneath a bridge.]
eastberlin:

rabbleprochoice:

nanner:

maggieisamess:

thecranium:

esmeweatherwax:

lavenderlabia:

dripplet:

I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing. And so I remember to pray earnestly.
—————————————————-
This organization—Save the Storks—offers women the opportunity to see their child before aborting it. Three out of five mothers change their mind and do not go through with the procedure. “We seek to persuade every abortion-minded mother to choose life and to share with them the good news of Jesus.” Amen. 

YAY THREE OUT OF FIVE PEOPLE ARE SUSCEPTIBLE TO EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION. WOOOOOHOOO!

Save the storks, are you fucking serious? Pregnant people aren’t fucking storks. God mind your own fucking business and stop shoving your Jesus bullshit on people.

“I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.”
What does this mean, you “see yourself” having this melodramatic reaction to other people’s medical decisions? And if you really feel this way, what does your age, employment status and marital status matter? THERE ARE BABIES’ LIVES ON THE LINE! Didn’t you see the ultrasound?
Storks. Who are the “storks” exactly? “Save the storks” doesn’t even make sense. As usual, the women are completely erased from pregnancy.

Also, does the would-be-adoptive-parent OP not see the irony in “Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing.” as the reason they just can’t adopt maybe being the exact same reason a pregnant woman wants to end their pregnancy?

THIS!!!!!



Let me tell you guys something: Before this whole medical school thing, I was a stage manager and I worked on a lot of shows in high school, college, and professionally. I dealt with a lot of people with different personalities and people who were difficult to work with, so I know what it looks like when someone is being over dramatic.
And the OP’s opening line is so on the level of being over dramatic and ridiculous that I cannot even truly describe the level of eye rolling that I just displayed. Like on a scale of 1-10, my level of eye rolling was a 15.
I just experienced a level 15 eye rolling…all directed at you, dripplet.
Also, the bolded is pretty much what I thought, too. The cognitive dissonance present in the anti-choice movement never fails to astound me.
Love,
Rabble

Here’s what really pisses me off about this (besides, you know, all of it): the OP could be doing so much to help babies and children that are already here if she refocused all the energy expended on worrying about other people’s reproductive decisions. She could make hats/blankets/booties for babies in the NICU at a local hospital. She could volunteer with organizations that help children: I know someone who volunteered to watch children at a domestic violence shelter while the mothers were at job interviews or counseling sessions or taking classes. She could help out at a day program for special needs kids. She could volunteer at a children’s hospital. She could work with a program like Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Hell, if she’s passionate about it she could go to school and make a career out of helping kids! She could study to become a teacher, a social worker, any number of careers in the medical field. But instead, she chooses to use all that time and energy to manipulate people into having children that they didn’t want or weren’t in a position to have. I guess that’s easier than doing something that actually helps living, breathing individuals.

It comes as no surprise to me that:
a) all these folks are white, young, and probably middle to upper middle class anti-choice Christians. And that half are people who (at the very least) read as men. Or: the people who have the least to fear when it comes to reproductive justice because whether they have an abortion or not (or whether a partner has an abortion or not), society is going to support them the most when it comes to an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy.
b) That they say “save the storks”. Apparently pregnant people aren’t even PEOPLE. They’re being basically told that they have no part in their own pregnancies. Because instead it’s about saving a stork who delivers the baby rather than dealing with the reality that babies don’t get delivered by storks. They get delivered by people with uteruses who go through A LOT - physically, emotionally, mentally, economically, socially, etc - when that happens and that forcing someone to go through with it by manipulating them and ripping away all options is not “saving a stork”, it’s harming a human being
c) That the entire basis of this is the devaluation of the actual WORK and difficulty that goes into being pregnant. The devaluation of reproductive work done by people with uteruses (OF ALL GENDERS). Because if we valued that work, if we thought it was important and difficult as a society we wouldn’t force people to do it when they didn’t want to.
d) There is no practical benefit or support offered to those who leave this van. There’s no mention that there’s follow up care or support. No referrals to, say, support organizations or therapists for those who are pregnant as the result of rape or incest, no offers of childcare or even free fucking baby gear. Nope. Just emotional manipulation and a pregnant person is sent on their way, dumped back into their problems except now they’ve been guilted into making a complicated situation even harder. Because their problems (lack of money, resources, support, etc) didn’t go away, but one of their possible options was made that much more inaccessible to them. 

Fantastic commentary above.

I already reblogged this once, but I had to again for more awesome commentary.

greaterthanlapsed:

panasonicyouth:

madamethursday:

[Image: A picture of several smiling white people lined up in front of a van that says “save the storks” with a picture of a stork on it, underneath a bridge.]

eastberlin:

rabbleprochoice:

nanner:

maggieisamess:

thecranium:

esmeweatherwax:

lavenderlabia:

dripplet:

I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.

Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing. 

And so I remember to pray earnestly.

—————————————————-

This organization—Save the Storks—offers women the opportunity to see their child before aborting it. Three out of five mothers change their mind and do not go through with the procedure.

“We seek to persuade every abortion-minded mother to choose life and to share with them the good news of Jesus.” Amen. 

YAY THREE OUT OF FIVE PEOPLE ARE SUSCEPTIBLE TO EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION. WOOOOOHOOO!

Save the storks, are you fucking serious? Pregnant people aren’t fucking storks. God mind your own fucking business and stop shoving your Jesus bullshit on people.

“I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.”

What does this mean, you “see yourself” having this melodramatic reaction to other people’s medical decisions? And if you really feel this way, what does your age, employment status and marital status matter? THERE ARE BABIES’ LIVES ON THE LINE! Didn’t you see the ultrasound?

Storks. Who are the “storks” exactly? “Save the storks” doesn’t even make sense. As usual, the women are completely erased from pregnancy.

Also, does the would-be-adoptive-parent OP not see the irony in “Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing.” as the reason they just can’t adopt maybe being the exact same reason a pregnant woman wants to end their pregnancy?

THIS!!!!!

Let me tell you guys something: Before this whole medical school thing, I was a stage manager and I worked on a lot of shows in high school, college, and professionally. I dealt with a lot of people with different personalities and people who were difficult to work with, so I know what it looks like when someone is being over dramatic.

And the OP’s opening line is so on the level of being over dramatic and ridiculous that I cannot even truly describe the level of eye rolling that I just displayed. Like on a scale of 1-10, my level of eye rolling was a 15.

I just experienced a level 15 eye rolling…all directed at you, dripplet.

Also, the bolded is pretty much what I thought, too. The cognitive dissonance present in the anti-choice movement never fails to astound me.

Love,

Rabble

Here’s what really pisses me off about this (besides, you know, all of it): the OP could be doing so much to help babies and children that are already here if she refocused all the energy expended on worrying about other people’s reproductive decisions. She could make hats/blankets/booties for babies in the NICU at a local hospital. She could volunteer with organizations that help children: I know someone who volunteered to watch children at a domestic violence shelter while the mothers were at job interviews or counseling sessions or taking classes. She could help out at a day program for special needs kids. She could volunteer at a children’s hospital. She could work with a program like Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Hell, if she’s passionate about it she could go to school and make a career out of helping kids! She could study to become a teacher, a social worker, any number of careers in the medical field. But instead, she chooses to use all that time and energy to manipulate people into having children that they didn’t want or weren’t in a position to have. I guess that’s easier than doing something that actually helps living, breathing individuals.

It comes as no surprise to me that:

a) all these folks are white, young, and probably middle to upper middle class anti-choice Christians. And that half are people who (at the very least) read as men. Or: the people who have the least to fear when it comes to reproductive justice because whether they have an abortion or not (or whether a partner has an abortion or not), society is going to support them the most when it comes to an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy.

b) That they say “save the storks”. Apparently pregnant people aren’t even PEOPLE. They’re being basically told that they have no part in their own pregnancies. Because instead it’s about saving a stork who delivers the baby rather than dealing with the reality that babies don’t get delivered by storks. They get delivered by people with uteruses who go through A LOT - physically, emotionally, mentally, economically, socially, etc - when that happens and that forcing someone to go through with it by manipulating them and ripping away all options is not “saving a stork”, it’s harming a human being

c) That the entire basis of this is the devaluation of the actual WORK and difficulty that goes into being pregnant. The devaluation of reproductive work done by people with uteruses (OF ALL GENDERS). Because if we valued that work, if we thought it was important and difficult as a society we wouldn’t force people to do it when they didn’t want to.

d) There is no practical benefit or support offered to those who leave this van. There’s no mention that there’s follow up care or support. No referrals to, say, support organizations or therapists for those who are pregnant as the result of rape or incest, no offers of childcare or even free fucking baby gear. Nope. Just emotional manipulation and a pregnant person is sent on their way, dumped back into their problems except now they’ve been guilted into making a complicated situation even harder. Because their problems (lack of money, resources, support, etc) didn’t go away, but one of their possible options was made that much more inaccessible to them. 

Fantastic commentary above.

I already reblogged this once, but I had to again for more awesome commentary.

(via existentialcrisisfactory)

"

This is why liberated female sexuality is so threatening. Conservative ideology holds that men and women are opposites. Men like sex, and so in order to keep the ideology intact, women can’t. In this world, women instead want male approval and of course babies, and sex is something they have to endure to get it. Contraception and especially abortion undermine this theory, not just because they can’t conceive of a woman saying no to babies, but also because they’re operating under an image of pregnancy as being something that gets men who otherwise want nothing to do with women (outside of sex) to commit. That women themselves say no to babies but yes to sex makes it hard to believe that it’s just women putting up with sex to get marriage-and-babies. That women often choose abortion in order to avoid marriage and babies (at least at this point in time) sends them around the bend. It suggests that people are individuals, not easily categorized genders with predictable and opposite behavior.

If you won’t choose it, then they feel that they’re in their rights to force it. When women can’t access contraception and abortion, sex is, in fact, less fun for them because it’s fraught. It does, in fact, introduce a power imbalance to sexual interactions between men and women because women are vulnerable in a way men aren’t. Giving men that power over women restores what conservatives believe is the proper order. If they can shame women and convince them that only sluts like sex, they can also get women to engage as enforcers, implying that they’re too good for that dirty sex stuff, unlike those lesser women. (Exhibit A.) That just bolsters the illusion that male and female sexuality are very different, and in that difference, they can find leverage to argue—-though indirectly, as is their habit—-that women are lesser than men.

"

Amanda Marcotte (via greaterthanlapsed)

It does, in fact, introduce a power imbalance to sexual interactions between men and women because women are vulnerable in a way men aren’t.”
(Le sigh at gendered language, but the point still stands.)

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Tags: abortion

bebinn:

The National Network of Abortion Funds can help you find a local abortion fund to help pay for an abortion you might not be able to afford.

(via sapphrikah)

Tags: abortion

"Forcing a woman to wait three days and consult with some asshole trying to convince her not to abort will not change the fact that that woman does not want to have a child. Even if it changes her mind about terminating the pregnancy, it doesn’t change whatever circumstances brought her to an abortion clinic in the first place. She’ll still walk out just as devoid of choices, just as un- or underemployed, just as broke, just as in debt, just as uninsured, just as lacking daycare, just as unable to care for herself and/or her existing children, just as in need of medication that she can’t take while pregnant, just as enmeshed in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, just the same as she was when she walked in. She’ll just have been guilted into making sacrifices she doesn’t want to make, to honor someone else’s mistaken perceptions about her morality."

Shakesville (via pastthestorm)

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Tags: quote abortion

redlightpolitics:

I might start using this definition.
via.

redlightpolitics:

I might start using this definition.

via.

Tags: abortion

stfukyriarchy:

thesameconspiracy:

celticthistle:

I laugh to keep from crying.

This is so true it’s disgusting.

Unfortunately 

stfukyriarchy:

thesameconspiracy:

celticthistle:

I laugh to keep from crying.

This is so true it’s disgusting.

Unfortunately 

(Source: i-am-a-child-of-time, via humbles)

greaterthanlapsed:

thetart:

taoistdrunk:

I very, very rarely post videos because frankly I hate watching videos on the Internet, but here is a poet named Sonya Renee performing “What Women Deserve,” and it seemed right to post today. It’s only three and a half minutes long. Watch it.

“…middle aged white men tell us what to do with our bodies while they wage war and kill other people’s babies.”

This lady is my other hero tonight, although I wish the audio was better. Watch it.

(Source: lenorebeadsman, via existentialcrisisfactory)

erockett89:

Taken outside a Planned Parenthood in Olympia, WA.

erockett89:

Taken outside a Planned Parenthood in Olympia, WA.

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Tags: rrr abortion